DEAR ABBY: Although I am excited about new opportunities in my life, I cannot get rid of the feeling of losing something. I always lose something, whether it’s my phone, my keys or my wallet. I once lost my installments and had to pay $ 300 for the new ones.
I find it hard to keep up with things. I’m afraid it will create serious problems when I start a career and lose something, which could cost me my job. I am also afraid of inheriting and losing important items from my family. I’m worried about being in charge of my own life when I can’t even keep track of the $ 5 in my pocket. I urgently need to change this bad habit. Is there something that will help me? – LOSE IT IN GEORGIA
DEAR TO LOSE: Your problem may not be as rare as you fear. Have you ever heard the adage âA place for everything and everything in its placeâ? This is good advice. Pick a location to put your phone, keys, and wallet when you get home. Once you get into this habit, you will always know where your things are. (There is an app, Find My Device, which can help you locate your electronic devices if you have a computer. There are also companies, like Tile, which can help you locate lost items such as your keys or wallet. .)
Some people with ADD lose track of the elements because they are easily distracted and focus on more than one task at a time. When holding your phone, keys, etc., reminding yourself to stay in the present can help. If none of these techniques are right for you, discuss your fears with a licensed psychotherapist, who can help you determine what is at the root of your problem and ease your anxiety for the future.
DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend / best friend for about six years now. We moved in together a little over a year ago and discussed the wedding. The problem is that one of her sisters has a drinking problem. She becomes rude and tries to harass others when she drinks. When she does this to me, I return the treatment, and she turns to her brother and tries to put him aside with her.
I know how important family is. Because I’m not related, I feel vulnerable – like she might disrupt my relationship with her brother. I love her and I really try with her. I think she would be happy if her brother was more available to spend time with her. She is a tomboy and often spent time with him before we moved in together. Please help me find a solution. – COMPETITION IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR COMPETITORS: One option might be for you and your boyfriend to leave when his sister starts drinking. Discuss it with your boyfriend / best friend. If you haven’t, do it. His sister might be trying to divide to win, but enlisting him alongside him will be much more difficult if he simply responds by saying, âI don’t want to be involved in this, Sis. Leave me out and stop picking on my girlfriend.
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