Sometimes alcoholics know. They know that every sip they take is a step towards their mental, emotional and physical breakdown. Sometimes they don’t. They spend their days and nights drinking to drown their sorrows or simply celebrate happiness. They depend on alcohol for their very existence and this is where the toxic cycle of alcoholism begins. In the process, they slowly lose the grip they have on their lives and their relationships.
The impact of alcoholism on relationships is immense.
Alcoholics don’t realize how much they lose their relationships when they prioritize their bottle of alcohol over their loved ones. Alcoholics don’t listen, they walk away and wait for the chaos and noise to quiet down. The quarrels of their loved ones seem irritating to them because their only priority is to drink and think about the moments that are most dear to them.
Intimacy in a relationship becomes a separate matter because the alcoholic becomes intimate with the concept of alcohol and not with their partner. The impact of alcoholism is a major factor in the failure of relationships and marriages. The harshness of alcohol drains emotional and mental energy and makes the person unavailable to the world. The person also becomes short of money and is unable to support himself or his family. From issues of intimacy, unreliability, and miscommunication, alcoholism destroys a person’s patience with their alcoholic partner. After all, how much are we supposed to endure?
It is not only her partner, but her parents, children and other relatives who must suffer the ill effects of alcoholism. They may not be in direct contact, but they suffer in silence, watching their loved ones slowly ruin themselves. An alcoholic also tries to cower from guilt, shame and embarrassment. They slowly hide from their family and resist talking about what they have been through. When help is brought to them, their natural reaction is to timidly refuse any rehabilitation. This can be very difficult to deal with because lies, mistrust, hidden bottles in the bathroom and secret money spending can drive a person crazy.
What’s worse? Alcoholism attracts a range of emotions, which can be violent.
Not surprisingly, alcoholics often resort to extreme behaviors when extremely drunk. Some scream, fight, or even physically abuse their partner, while others enter into a mindset of suicidal thoughts. They are unable to detach from this disorder and it continues to pose a deadly threat to relationships and life aspirations. According to studies, a large percentage of households experience domestic violence if one of the partners is an alcoholic. Forced enrollment of the partner in a rehabilitation center is the last hope an unhappy person can have for their alcoholic partner.
It is indeed very difficult to be in a relationship with such a person but to continue to love and take care of her is the only hope of the latter. You may have to step in and play the role of your therapist or your angel in disguise, but determined support can be the key to maintaining a relationship that has been destroyed by alcoholism.
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